Reading Angela Mollard's Wise Words column in the Sunday magazine of the Telegraph titled Too busy for life, quality not quantity, helps a child grow says Angela - I had to agree.
Working with parents I often hear the person, ( usually a mum) or couples life has been sidelined or worse overtaken all together with the busy-ness of raising children.
I often feel a pang of regret for the children who are seem to be over-scheduled to within an inch of their lives, wondering how this effects their developing personality. Are we raising mini adults modelling for them a state of anxiety induced by the need to be a good swimmer, dancer, soccer player you name it. Where did we forget fun in our little ones childhood?
Never mind what the effects are on a partnership, as people walk into my door wrung out with tiredness in search of relationship help.
I often coach the need to re-prioritise the relationship, the friendship and love for the forlorn forgotten couple. When this relationship is strengthened, children's security needs are met in a far deeper and more meaningful level than any sporting event or performance.
Interestingly I started this post with other ideas in mind, but as I was writing this is what came through my my dealings with the people I work with.
Parents are also partners, whether you are together or not. So I encourage you to be there for mate and not sideline your relationship but put it centre stage as the model you wish for yourself and your children - the best lessons you can give your child are the ones they see within your relationship.
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Best Wishes Philipa
