Rolf Harris Guilty on all Counts

Even as a kiwi kid I grew up with Rolf Harris's talented persona.  

On weekly television shows he painted, sang and played in my family living room. 

He had easy access to many young children and a ready charm - the perfect play for a paedophile. 

Most of us think of child molesters as the stranger in the park long dark cloak. 

That is very rare. These criminals have to cultivate an easy friendly manner that gets your guard down and letting them access underage children in your care. 

If you want a chilling description of the excuses and criminal profiles of sex offenders then look no further than clinical psychologist Nigel Latta's book Into the Darklands.  Reading this changed my behaviour it's scary but compelling reading.  

Rolf Harris classically minimises and defends his criminal behaviour. He calls himself "touch feely", blames the victim as misconstruing his 'friendly way.' 

Calling the grooming of a child to be ready for his sexual advances an affair. 

Get off Rolf it's wrong!

Complimenting a child in a bikini is wrong! 

Putting your hands on a child's private parts wrong and criminal!

I am saddened disappointed with Rolf's behaviour and sexual offences.  

I can't imagine what his family is going through, that's a very difficult place to be. Of course they love him. 

And most of all my heart goes out to the courageous victims for speaking out. 

Child abuse is the first act betrayal and not being heard or believed is the second.   

Listen up mums and dads. 

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Eight Gigabytes of hard core play at the Griffin Theatre Sydney

Last night saw me in the audience with Friends watching playwright Declan Greene's witty "Eight Gigabytes of Hardcore Pornography."

At moments laugh out loud lauding, then cringing in the despair of the human condition of these two characters who meet online. 

Observantly and with poetic skill Declan captures the weirdness and angst of these people lives. 

She is a forty something nurse, raising her kids solo encircled by massive credit card debt as she buys to fill the emotional void that is her life. 

He is a computer hack, bored with the orneriness of his marriage and life. He seeks solace in the fantasy of internet pornography to deal with his unexplored and unvoiced anxiety. 

This emptiness inevitably draws them together, seeking what each craves, only for them to wind up stripped bare in despair. 

An excellent play!

Director Lee Lewis makes the most of the intimacy of the Stables Theatre.  

Andrea Gibbs and Steve Rodgers deliver the pathos, anxiety of unmet needs and desires that go very deep great work !

I can highly recommend this fabulous play, it certainly sparkled my friends conversations with awe and connection as we shared our love experiences. 4/5. 

Charlize Theron feels "raped" by media attention.

I have to agree with Louise Roberts take in today's Telegragh. The use of the word "rape" casualises sexual violence and demeans humanity. 

Charlize you may feel violated by the constant media presence - that is understandable. I hear you. 

However  rape is not an accurate description of anything but a sexual crime. 

People let's get really clear on this. 

Rape is not a throw away line.

 I have worked with many brave survivors of this vicious crime. 

It can be overcome but we must not minimise the seriousness of sexual violence. 

Speak out ! 

Mum get your boobs out !!

Having been lucky enough to breast feed my daughter Jessica, boy was I shocked to read of poor Allison's Smith's baby unable to be feed !

She was at The Children's Hospital no less when she was asked to move from the children's playroom to breast feed her sick son. 

All for the sake of the children ! Really?!

Fight this form of illegal discrimination. 

That's right people it is illegal to tell a breast feeding mum to stop, move elsewhere or cover up under the Sex Discrimination Act 1984. 

The breast is a holy instrument of nourishment. It is only adults who sexualise and demean this source of growth from their own discomfort and inappropriate responses. If you don't like it - then take responsibility and remove yourself from the situation. 

So I am urging all mums to feed their hungry children - that's right get your boob's out mums with babies!!

It is you and your child's right to a meal. 

 Www.Psychsolutions.Net.Au supports all lactating mothers and their babies. 

Lithgow Dr's Murder Tragedy

My phone rang this morning by the good folks at 2UE. Anita the lovely producer Of 2UE's Mornings with Angela Catterns was thinking of the poor children left behind in the suspected murder- suicide at Lithgow this week and who was looking after them professionally. 

Respected Lithgow Doctor Leonie Geldenhuys' two sons aged 13 and 18, discovered her fatally stabbed to death early Tuesday morning. Sadly their fathers body was later found in what Police suspect is a murder-suicide. 

Of course this is shocking and traumatizing on a number of levels. 

No doubt this is devastating for those children. Doubly so as they found their parent deceased in such a horrific manner. 

Exposure to trauma is traumatizing by it's very nature. We all have differing responses and coping skills. 

There is the necessary crisis response at this time where support and emotional care are needed.  The children need to process this tragic event and try to make sense out of what makes no sense. 

Children exposed to horror of this kind are at increased psychological risk of developing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Complicated Bereavement, Depression and Anxiety. 

In my professional opinion it is crucial they understand their parents relationship and it's obviously disturbed interaction is not about them. 

Responsibilty for this lies solely at Mum and Dad's feet as the adults in the situation. Parents must actively protect their children from their relationship breakdown. 

This is vital. Too many times in my rooms I see adults telling me of situations where they were out in harms way as a way to manage violence and unhappiness. 

It is not a child's place. Children need to remain partitioned away from  adult conflict and concerns.  

Please Australia put your children's emotional and physical safety as priority No.1 especially in cases of estrangement, separation and divorce. 

Call the authorities, seek professional support if you are experiencing difficulty in relationships - spare your children from this burden. 

My deepest condolences to Dr Geldenhuys children, family and friends.